July 2011
Alrighty, some anxiety-releasing techniques!
First, let me explain a bit what anxiety is.
Basically, when we’re in a situation that might require us to run (such as being chased) or require a burst of energy, we get a little adrenaline rush to allow us to. Those with anxiety get the fight-or-flight feeling whenever anything uncomfortable happens (those with phobic anxiety will get the feeling whenever they are near whatever their phobia, et cetera).
So! What you should do when you’re starting to get anxious is ask yourself whether you’re in an emergency or not. Is anyone in danger of getting hurt? Might there be anything destructive?
In most cases, no. But to prevent yourself from getting worked up like there would be something going wrong try:
- Square breathing. First take a breath counting to four, hold it for a count of four, let it go for a count of four, and don’t inhale for a count of four. Take two regular breaths and if you don’t feel better, repeat. Usually you take shallower breaths when anxious/scared, so take deeper ones to relax you and slow your heart rate down.
- Distract yourself. The options here are endless! Watch TV, cook something, read a book, play a game, write a letter. Physical, hands-on projects are usually the favorites of most, as they get you to move. Common projects are crafting, gardening, or cross-word puzzles.
- Do something physical. Not only does this release pent-up energy, but if done regularly it actually lessens anxiety in general. It doesn’t have to be very hard activity, a simple walk outside works. Fresh air helps a lot. Most favorites are walking, swimming, and dancing.
- Tell your anxiety to shut up. Really. If you have to yell at it, do it! A lot of people have little phrases they like to repeat to themselves, such as “This is just anxiety. I can get through this,” “I’ve done this before, I can do it again!” “This isn’t an emergency. I can think calmly about what I need to do here,” “This isn’t a problem. I can chill!” “Anxiety will not run my life. I run it!” If a phrase seems to stop working, you can easily use another one.
- Write it out. This is something else you can do to distract yourself, as creating something via writing can keep your mind elsewhere, or you can write out what’s making you anxious and what you can do to “save” yourself from any bad outcomes.
- Listen to a meditation tape. These can help because they’re telling you how to relax, what to think, et cetera.
If you need any more tips, don’t hesitate to ask! ^///^ Best wishes!
This is very good advice! My therapist has told me a lot of these same things. Even if you’re just nervous about a big project you’ve been working too hard on or a speech you have to give, relaxing and not being anxious about the event will help you do better and think better. You can’t think or live right when your body constantly thinks it’s being chased by a bear. All your energy gets focused on running away from the metaphorical bear and/or kicking the metaphorical bear’s ass, when in reality there is no bear and you have to live your life.
Now I very much want to change my blog title to ‘there is no bear.’
June 2011
The Difference Between Ten and Eleven…
Ten meets his double, declares him to be “born in battle, full of blood and anger and revenge,” and abandons him in a parallel universe without the TARDIS.
Eleven meets his double and immediately they’re bow-tie-wearing BFFs, complimenting each other and apparently preparing to put on a puppet show.
Well, that’s ‘cause Ten’s double WAS born in battle and committed genocide for christ’s sake. Eleven’s double was just made of goo and served no purpose other than to confuse Amy.
I have found that I am obscenely attracted to Scotsmen...especially when they wear kilts.
Limousine
Brand New
Brand New - Limousine
“There was a six year-old girl who was returning from a wedding on Long Island, on a road that was maybe a mile and a half from my house. And it was late that night and there were two limousines following each other and the younger girl was in the front limousine and her mother and family were in the rear limousine. And some kid, you know, some Long Island over-privileged white kid had a fight with his girlfriend and decided he would go tie one on. He got in his SUV and got on the exit ramp of a highway and was just booking down the wrong side of the highway and didn’t even see this limousine coming at him. Didn’t hit the breaks, just hit them head-on. And the little girl, Katie Flynn, she was decapitated, and the limo driver was killed instantly. And the limousine that was behind the first limousine stopped and the mother got out and she ran to see if she could find her daughter, and she found her daughter’s head lying in the middle of the highway. So she picked it up and she sat on the side of the curb with her daughter’s head in her lap while the rescue workers cut her daughter’s body out of the limo…enough bad things happen in life that are beyond are control for things that are in our control to go on like that.”
-Jesse Lacey“K, it’s your ride.
Get your petals out and lay them in the aisle
Pretend you are God and grow,
And it’s your day to wed
We’ve found your man.
He’s drinking up. He’s all-American,
and he’ll drive.
He’s volunteered with grace to end your life.
We’ll tidy up.
It’s sad to hold, but leave your shell to us
You explode, you firefly, you tiny boat with oars,
Feather oars
The world tilts back and pours and pours
And so, you satellite, you tidal wave,
You’re a big surprise
And I’ve one more night to be your mother.”Sometimes when I talk to people about my favorite band, I fail to mention what a beautiful and grounded poet Jesse Lacey is. I don’t think it’s talked about enough, the power of writing lyrics about something you weren’t directly involved in, but it’s something that takes a great deal of talent and a great deal of self-lessness. This song is not about Jesse or Garrett or Brian or Vinny, and it’s not about their friends or their family or their love lives. It’s about how a troubled young man, in one instant, took a young life out of his own selfishness. It’s not glorifying him, it’s calling him a thief. Imagine losing your own child. Jesse doesn’t even have kids, he’s not even married or dating, but he’s mourning this little girls death, and even more her mother’s loss. He is a truly moving artist, and day in and day out I’m impressed by him.
Devil and God is lyrically an amazing album. There are so many facets to this song it’s really quite astounding.
This actually is, always has been, and always will be, one of my favourite songs of all time.
“The signal interrupts,
baby’s frequency not strong enough
remain in my hands and smile,
We will miss you but in time you’ll get settled
and we will write.
beauty supreme.
Yeah, you were right about me.
But can I get myself out from underneath
This guilt that will crush me?”
“I think if Shakespeare knew what was going on, he would be rolling in his grave. Rolling a huge joint!”
—Craig Ferguson (via pope-john-paul-george-and-ringo)
Harley Quinn/Poison Ivy shoes
Look Rev I finished them
For my daughter, doctahharleenquinzel because Harley/Ivy is her OTP
Look everyone, this is my mommy, the most perfectest person ever! <3
I love herrrrrrrrrrrr. <33
also Tyler is going to propose a threesome.
^In reference to Claus barging in on Xander and Tyler
Publishing for Paige to see.
"xander probably has wizard herpes."
Daniii, I don't wanna reply in the party, there's nothing to do except start making out with Tyler, but that doesn't give mch for a whole post. Can you just bring in Xander's future boyfriend- I mean trophy- I mean...Eoin?
aall of my friends are perfect.
Sure, I’ll go do that now.
#Hannah is taking this contest personally #shit #is #about #to #get #real
Daniii, I don't wanna reply in the party, there's nothing to do except start making out with Tyler, but that doesn't give mch for a whole post. Can you just bring in Xander's future boyfriend- I mean trophy- I mean...Eoin?
aall of my friends are perfect.
Sure, I’ll go do that now.
#Hannah is taking this contest personally #shit #is #about #to #get #real
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Best thing that has happened to me this week: Uhmmm. To be honest, starting my flvs classes. I finally have motivation to be productive! /nerd
How I’d spend ten thousand bucks: College.
Something I’m currently worrying about: See above answer.
Something I do without realizing: Uhm…be rude, I do that a lot apparently. I seem to be very good at obliviously hurting people’s feeling. I just think people are too sensitive, but that’s just me.
Press Ctrl V and post: (Prepare for something you wrote, I’m guessing xD) “Never mind about that boy. I can’t even bother about him anymore. See, now? You’ve got me in a tizzy. Kiss it better, darling, kiss it better!” (I was right!)
Daniii, I don't wanna reply in the party, there's nothing to do except start making out with Tyler, but that doesn't give mch for a whole post. Can you just bring in Xander's future boyfriend- I mean trophy- I mean...Eoin?
"ALSO I’M REPLYING IN THE KITCHEN RIGHT NOW. TYLER’S ABOUT TO STRADDLE XANDER. GIGGITY."
Sorry, Dani, I just had to post this. xD
Reasons I enjoy roleplaying.
Especially with this woman.
- The person I like and why I like them
- A famous person I’ve been compared to
- 5 things that irritate me about the same/opposite sex
- The best thing that has happened to me this week
- Weird things I do when I’m alone
- How I’d spend ten thousand bucks
- Things I like and things I don’t like about the way I look
- My last night out in detail
- Something that makes me sad when I think about it
- Something Ive lied about
- Would I rather be stranded on a desert island with someone I love for ten years or someone I hate for a month? Explain why
- Something Im currently worrying about
- One person from Tumblr Id throw off a cliff, one Id marry and one Id fuck
- Something I do without realizing
- Lyrics that apply to my current situation/mood
- A drunken story
- Something I regret
- To do list
- Post a picture of myself
- My longest relationship and who it was with
- Press Ctrl V and post
- Post a bit of my last IM convo
- 5 things I want to change
- My view on being Tumblr Famous
- Someone Id like to be for a day and why
- 5 things within touching distance
- Story of my first kiss
- An embarrassing/socially awkward situation Ive found myself in
- Something Im not proud of
- The last argument I had
So, Charlie's song, "Chemical Love" is officially the most played song in my itunes. I might be a bit too in love with that song.
Remind me why we bothered scheduling specific people to work specific days of Journey this summer? Because out of the five people who were signed up to work thus far, only two have shown up when they were supposed to. Everyone just keeps being all, "Ooh, excuseexcuse I can't work this Sunday or the next Sunday or fucking ever even though I signed up like, ten times."
I don’t enjoy this.
I love Emily Weeks.
Rahne, why do you sound like you're eight years old?
omg, Lance, stop being so cute!
omg, Kurt, STOP BEING SO CUTE.
Why are my favorite boys being so cute? Cx
I should probably work on Florence.
Probably.
SO MANY GRYFFINDORS SUDDENLY.
SERIOUSLY.
I’m probably making a Ravenclaw eventually in addition to Violaa.
